How to burn fearlessly…

We are here to burn fearlessly…. I came across this quote recently and something about it really chimed with me. I have been trying to find myself after me and my boy’s dad split up, and some days I do well at burning brightly as me, and other days I hang my head down, as […]

How to be more mindful…

Today’s message required me to push the boat out a bit in terms of the space needed on my arm, so I thought I’d try a bit of calligraphy too! I’m going through a difficult phase with a close friend, who keeps pushing me away on a regular basis. Remembering some of the good times […]

How to change your mind….

For months, even years, I’ve been writing inspirational quotes in my journal. But then I realised, that to get them to stay in my head, they need to become mantras, and in order for that to happen, they need to be in front of me. In the summer I embarked on a wristband project, where […]

How to get someone out of your head…

Well, I can’t promise that I’ve successfully managed to do that yet, but I’m trying something new to see if it will work, as I need to do something otherwise I fear I may run mad. Well, maybe that’s a tad too Bronte-esque but you get the picture. I’ve been involved in a very complicated […]

How to be damned by a glimpse of paradise…

I’ve come 20 years too late to The Beach party, but better late than never. I read Alex Garland’s 1990s classic over the course of a few days and couldn’t put it down. For any fellow late-to-the-partiers it’s the story of Richard, who finds himself on an idyllic island in the Gulf of Thailand, where […]

How to face your fears….

I was left looking up into the dark sky, rain drops falling through the gap in the smoke-shelter roof. It was midnight and the place was thronging with people, dance music pounding. My head felt other worldly because of the alcohol and the nicotine pulsing through my brain. Senses heightened, I perched, alone, on the […]

How to be more confident….

We were skating, my son clinging to the plastic polar bear that was helping to guide him round the rink and my ex periodically clutching the barriers while tottering around unsteadily. I was skating round to the exit barrier when I noticed a woman coming onto the ice. She was spraying her hair and then […]

How to love your body a bit more…

I’ve been thinking a lot about weight this week. I’m currently reading Martin Amis’ autobiography and I stopped to think when he talked about his father’s descent, or rather expansion, into corpulence in later life as a conscious decision made as an acceptance of his disconnection with his sexual life. That to comfort eat and […]

How to draw summer to a close….

‘They’ll all come off at the end of September’ I’d said to a friend as we sat in my back garden in June, when the autumn seemed like it would never arrive. In the lime-green freshness of early summer the idea that everything will turn golden and die always seems inconceivable. But everything has its […]

How to go to your first festival…

Firstly, buy a tent. In an ideal world erect tent before you go so you know what you’re up against. But hey, in my new-found spirit of abandon and winging it I decided to just rock up and see what occurred. The same went for a camp cooker and an air bed. I’ve spent so […]