How to make the most of splendid isolation

I’ve been single for three months now. No-one in the background, no-one I’m messaging. Just me. And now the UK is in Covid19 lockdown, I’m even more just me. I’d told myself I was going to spend time on my own, and it seems now that the universe is conspiring with me to achieve that […]

How to burn fearlessly…

We are here to burn fearlessly…. I came across this quote recently and something about it really chimed with me. I have been trying to find myself after me and my boy’s dad split up, and some days I do well at burning brightly as me, and other days I hang my head down, as […]

How to be more mindful…

Today’s message required me to push the boat out a bit in terms of the space needed on my arm, so I thought I’d try a bit of calligraphy too! I’m going through a difficult phase with a close friend, who keeps pushing me away on a regular basis. Remembering some of the good times […]

How to get someone out of your head…

Well, I can’t promise that I’ve successfully managed to do that yet, but I’m trying something new to see if it will work, as I need to do something otherwise I fear I may run mad. Well, maybe that’s a tad too Bronte-esque but you get the picture. I’ve been involved in a very complicated […]

How to be damned by a glimpse of paradise…

I’ve come 20 years too late to The Beach party, but better late than never. I read Alex Garland’s 1990s classic over the course of a few days and couldn’t put it down. For any fellow late-to-the-partiers it’s the story of Richard, who finds himself on an idyllic island in the Gulf of Thailand, where […]

How to face your fears….

I was left looking up into the dark sky, rain drops falling through the gap in the smoke-shelter roof. It was midnight and the place was thronging with people, dance music pounding. My head felt other worldly because of the alcohol and the nicotine pulsing through my brain. Senses heightened, I perched, alone, on the […]

How to be more confident….

We were skating, my son clinging to the plastic polar bear that was helping to guide him round the rink and my ex periodically clutching the barriers while tottering around unsteadily. I was skating round to the exit barrier when I noticed a woman coming onto the ice. She was spraying her hair and then […]

How to have your heart broken…

They say that the break-up of your first relationship after your marriage hurts the most, and they are right… They…. A few months ago I had my heart broken. I’ve healed now, but the anguish I felt at the time I wrote about in my journal, to process the hurt, and these were my thoughts: […]